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I’m curious if you have had the experience where you finally feel like you have everything you need and then YOU CAN’T TAKE ACTION!
I have. And it wasn’t pretty.
I literally had the tools I needed. I had the support I needed – both from my team, as well as from my mentors. I had the vision – both big and small.
And then, everything shut down.
I couldn’t get myself to do ANYTHING. I didn’t want to do ANYTHING.
This was the most paralyzing version of my brain keeping me safe that I had experienced yet in my business.
I tried to push through, I set up accountability, I reached out for support. What I found is that I ended up moving back into my OLD ways of doing things, and my old ways of thinking.
I was over-thinking my way into staying in INaction. BRILLIANT!
Well, brilliant in the sense that my brain was keeping me so safe I could have lived in a bubble – nothing was gonna get me – cause I wasn’t doing anything.
Well, that’s the way it seemed. It seemed like an eternity. Like this was going on for months and months. But in reality it was a very long 2 days.
And then something happened. Words from my one of my very wise mentors helped me to see what was happening. Even though I was resisting even seeing this, the words came into me in a way I knew it was truth.
My logical brain tried to figure out what to do about it. But that was actually the problem. There was nothing to do about it. There was nothing to figure out. What I really needed to do was to BE with it.So instead of living in a state of resisting my resistance – whoa is that uncomfortable! – I moved into accepting my resistance.
I actually took an entire day and let myself do nothing. This was still more of a mental game with myself than anything else – of course I couldn’t see that at the time. But when I finally let myself move into what I was experiencing, there was nothing for me to fight against anymore. I didn’t have to fight to be safe, I was safe.
And what I saw is that this was my version, this time around, of the big upper limits stuff. How good can I let myself have things? How good can I let myself experience the world? How good can I let my business become?
Will I actually let myself have everything I want?
And, what I noticed is that having other women who have been in this place, who have experienced the big highs and the big lows to connect with is powerful medicine. To be in a safe space to be and move through everything, with no judgement and being lifted up, is PRICELESS.
So this experience turned out to be the birthing of some new great work that has been wanting to come through for quite some time. And I needed to give myself the quiet, cocoon, and restful mind, to allow the truth to flow through me. It isn’t mine to figure out, it is mine to receive.
The darkness leads to the light every time. It’s in the darkness that if we can remember there will be light, that allows the resistance to soften, and for the greatness to come through.
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