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There’s a lot of talk about finding your purpose in the self-help world. I’ve never been into it.
I find the idea that any one of us has one particular purpose limiting. I love the fact that I’m lit up by being a writer, a marketer, a friend, a community creator, a leader, a mom, a wife, a daughter, a teacher, and a dancer (just to mention a few of the many things I am).
I know I’m at my best when I feel my best. So I orient my daily activities and my choices towards what makes me feel the best. What’s so awesome and efficient about this is that choosing what feels good to me ensures I’m a better mom, a better wife, a better business owner, etc.
Trying to distill your purpose down to one phrase or concept can be a real waste of time and energy.
Not to mention the fact that though everyone says life is short, it’s also long. There are so many seasons in most of our lifetimes, and each season requires a different version of ourselves and, therefore, a different purpose.
Plus, the rhetoric around needing to find your purpose leaves people who are in exploration – living in the fertile void, not sure what they’re doing yet (which is all of us at any given time in our lives) – feel like there’s something wrong with them because they can’t tell you their purpose.
You’ll get a lot more mileage out of getting busy living than sitting around waiting to begin your life once you’ve found your purpose.
If you ask me, our purpose is to be the fullest expression of ourselves.
(You’re welcome for saving you hours journaling and possibly hundreds of dollars on seminars and coaching.)
Instead of trying to find your purpose, why not get out and explore what feels good to you?
One day you might be totally on purpose searching the woods for beautiful leaves with your 3-year-old. The next day you might be totally on purpose by giving the presentation of your life at this year’s big conference. And the next day you could be purposefully watching re-runs of Fixer Upper.
All you. All potentially purposeful.
It’s not so much knowing what our purpose is that creates a purposeful life. It’s living purposefully. And living purposefully doesn’t require a well-crafted mission statement that you can whip out at your next self-actualization shindig.
If you stumble upon some elegant purpose statement as you’re exploring the wild ride of being a human and it feels like it fits, awesome! Go with that.
Just don’t get caught in the trap of thinking that somehow you can’t live a great life if you don’t know what your purpose is.
And if you already feel like you have a very clear idea of your purpose, hold it gently. When we cling to our ideas of who we are too tightly we don’t leave much room to surprise ourselves.
May we all go forth with the purpose of being us. And may we do it on purpose.
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