5 Lessons From A Mompreneur

Hillary Rubin (Business Heroine Magazine)

My family recently had a very, very, very special day: My son Odin’s 2nd birthday and my 2nd anniversary of being a mompreneur.

Can I get a HELL YES?!?!

I remember being in labor and doing the Closing Circle Celebration for my coach training program.

Crazy pants how time flies when you have a child and have to focus on growing a person alongside of a business.

I’m so happy I’ve decided to have a career (it’s taken time) that allows me to do what I love, coach & mentor coaches, work from home, and be with him.

Which brings me to WHY I LOVE COACHING…

I have lots of friends who are mompreneurs who inspire and support me. Without them I don’t know where I’d be. They remind me I’m not alone. I may have given up on finding my way and even making this work. I’m so glad I stuck it out and am still here. Congratulations to me.

To sum it up, it’s been beautifully challenging.

I learned and am still learning a lot about myself, my son, my relationships, having a business, and the world. Time flies, there is less of it because there is more to do, and more to say no to. Today I’m thrilled to say I learned to ask for help, #4 of my 5 lessons.

I have many more lessons I’ve learned and these are my top 5…  

Lesson 1: Let go of perfect

We all know this and still have to learn it again and again. The lessons we need the most we keep bumping into when we have big changes, like having kids. We all do our best to do it all and it’s just not possible.

I used to be so caught up on having things perfect. This would drive me and everyone around me nuts. Go for good enough and then you can tweak it as you go along. Yes, I used to have everything in order in my home, and now dishes in the sink will have to do when things get busy.

YES, I’d love to have a new website, and had to let this go to focus on what really matters.

This is why I updated my site with new offerings, a shop, and am focused on serving my clients so they get the results they need. Getting it out so I can serve and do my work is more important than having ‘every i dotted and every t crossed’.

Let go of perfect and embrace imperfect action.

Lesson 2: Not all feedback is useful

This was huge. At first my mind was blurry, mommy brain. Nursing, not sleeping, and being totally depleted, I took in feedback that was not useful. I increased my coach training program from a 12-week program to a 17-week program, and then to a 6-month program.

The feedback has always been across the board – people need more time to implement, practice, and what really happens is there is more time to get distracted and not follow through.

GREAT LESSON, especially when it’s my mission to make sure those who set off on this path with me make it to get out there to coach – not think about coaching or talk themselves out of it for one reason or another.

So the next round will be 3 months, with more focus on coaching skills and tools training.

I know now to sit with the feedback, ask myself if this feels right and will this be the best thing for everyone. Even though students asked for more time, that does not mean they will use it to their advantage. Parkinson’s Law says it – whatever the amount of time you set to do something, your project will expand into that. So 3 months or 6 months? I’ll take 3 months.

Big lesson, take in feedback and ask yourself if it causes tension or ease. Does it feel like more responsibility, more work, time, energy or money (time is money)?  

Not all feedback is useful, learn to use your own intuition to help guide your next step. 

Lesson 3: Check in regularly to see what’s working and what’s not

It’s easy to get caught in being busy, working, working, and working, and not taking stock to see what is actually working or not working. Like I said in #2 about feedback from others, you mostly will benefit from your own feedback. (Thank you to my coach Todd Herman for this one!)

Going, going, going and not looking at what you’re doing is crazy normal, and just plain crazy. I say this with love because I’m in it with you. When I finally looked at what was working for me, not working for me, what to stop and start doing, things shifted in my life and business,

In my life and business, not sleeping wasn’t working. I had to get sleep and teach my son to sleep. Not having a shop for people to get training was not working for me, so I got my shit together and made it happen (not on my own, with help, that leads me to #4).

Make time to review, reflect and see what is working, not working, what is serving you and what has stopped serving you. Then layout a plan to stop the things that aren’t working and do more of what is working.

Taking time to review, reflect and see what’s working and what’s not is vital to your success!

Lesson 4: Ask for help

This is all about TRUST, delegating and finding those who can show you another way when things are not working for you. This is where late night asks on Facebook to those who are in the same boat can be a game changer. This is when not sleeping at night is slowly burning you out. When I realized it wasn’t working, I got a help, a sleep consultant.

This is when I was feeling burnt out on doing it all that I hired a coach, got a new framework to make things easier in my business with my team, and not make it harder.

I’ve been working for myself for a long time and I too forget sometimes that asking for help is usually when there is a big breakthrough. It also gets you out of a rut and helps to have someone else to see your blind spots and reminders that you are awesome.

Asking for help is not about weakness, it’s the opposite. It’s saying I know what I can do and I know what I can’t do, and I don’t know what I don’t know.

Is there somewhere in your life you’re needing clarity, support, or a new way to do something that’s not working anymore for you?

Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Lesson 5: There’s no magic pill

If there was a magic pill I’d love to take it. The only magic pill there is out there is DOING THE WORK. Showing up is not enough. Have clear goals, trim the fat, and know everything takes your time, energy and focus.

Know that there are not overnight successes and those you admire or even put on a pedestal have made a ton of mistakes which is what has led them to be where they are at.

I know for myself I have big goals and what helps is breaking it down, knowing what is most important, and letting the rest go to the side for another time. Like with doing the regular check in’s, they help to see what really works.

Knowing this is what allows you to do the work. Have fun with it and be amused. Everything will get done, maybe not as fast as you’d like it, which goes for most things.

It takes 9 months to grow a baby, almost two years to grow a baby elephant, and a lifetime to create an amazing human being.

So slow down, remember there’s no rush, stay focused and enjoy it all. Do the work, stop making excuses and call yourself out on your shit. Don’t forget to take care of yourself, never give up on your dreams or goals – update them instead.  

In life and in business, there is no magic pill. Slow down, stay focused and enjoy your journey.

Let’s recap…

Lesson 1: Let go of perfect

Lesson 2: Not all feedback is useful

Lesson 3: Check in regularly to see what’s working and what’s not

Lesson 4: Ask for help

Lesson 5: There’s no magic pill

I hope learning from my lessons helps you to take a step back and see what lessons life has been trying to reveal for you.

 

Hillary Rubin (Business Heroine Magazine)

Business Heroine Magazine

 

We’d love to hear from YOU…

What are some of the valuable lessons you’ve learned in business? If you’re a mompreneur, how did your business change when you became a mom? Leave your answer in the comments below!

 

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