We spend a lot of time absorbing other people’s information. From Facebook and other internet sites, to TV, to the glossy magazines in the grocery store, to our friends and family. The opinions and ideas of others are constantly filling our minds. But when was the last time you really considered what YOU believe?

The beginning of the year is a great time to reevaluate and take stock of your internal life. And, it’s a great time to not just set goals of things to achieve, but to find some things to RELEASE. And let’s start with some toxic beliefs about ourselves.

Things I No Longer Believe About Me:

1. My worth is in my work. We have to work. We have to pay the bills. But our work does not define us. Even if, as in my case, it’s your own company! It’s time to let go of the belief that I am identified by what I DO  instead of who I AM. Find yourself not just in your work, but in your relationships, your spiritual life, even the ways you relax. These are all you, and you are worthy.

2. Adding is better than subtracting. We add more activities. Add more friends. Add more work, more ideas, more pressure. Do we ever prune our lives? In my life, there were people that needed to be released. A relationship with them no longer had a place in my life- not because they weren’t fine people, but because their views, beliefs, language, etc. didn’t fit with mine. If you have negative people in your life, those always speaking of “not enough” or “stress” or always complaining, it is time to remove them. Their negativity is affecting your mindset and soul. If you have people in your life who constantly remind you of the past, but have nothing to offer your future, it is time to let them go. The past shapes us, creates the person we are today, so we can go create the future! The past does not exist to hold us there, and if there are people in your life attempting to do that, move on.

3. Beating myself up about mistakes will ensure I don’t make them again. Yeah, that doesn’t work. What ends up happening is that I spend so much time dwelling on the mistakes that I create a mindset of fear and anxiety. And this paralyzes me when it is time to make a decision. This has been true in both my business and my relationships. I become so afraid of making the same mistake, that I cannot make any decision that will move me forward.

My challenge to you lovely ladies, take a moment to evaluate your beliefs. Are there some that are no longer serving you? What message has infiltrated your heart and mind, but it isn’t really true? Write it down, and then put it in the trash can. Take on 2014 with only the beliefs that support you and move you forward. I’d love comments on the beliefs you’ve released, and if any new, positive ones have taken their place!

January 2014 Issue