Every time I would ask my husband what he wanted from life, he would say he wanted to be happy.

This was always a frustrating answer to me, but I couldn’t identify why.

Now, I know. And my knowing is gonna help you get closer to having a life of true liberation.

I’m the kinda gal who loves to give to people around me.

In fact, my three core values (and the truth of who I am – more on this another time) are:

Generous
Loving
Free

That means I just want to give you what you want.

So when my hubby (back in the day) told me he just wanted to be happy, I felt flummoxed. Because I knew he wasn’t happy and I didn’t know what else I could give him to make it so.

Reading Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map, gave me some clarity.

Happy looks totally different for everyone.

What’s your happy feel like on a daily basis?

From that place you can make decisions about things like what you want to do with your life and who you want to be in the world.

I tend to get impatient, snippy, and downright bitchy when I’m making shit happen (my partner calls me lizard girl) and that’s no recipe for happy.

So, I’m on a quest to uplevel and that means going back to the fundamentals.

Danielle LaPorte says to get aware of your Core Desired Feelings (CDFs), so that’s what I’m doing.

And so far I can tell you they seem to center around my core values of being generous, loving and free.

What does happy feel like to you?

November 2013 Issue