Yes, February is known as the month of love, but I like to think of February as the month of evaluating your self-love.  We are into the second month of the year and you know what that sometimes means- resolution burn out and even a sense of sadness if we can’t spend Valentine’s Day with that special someone.  No matter if your resolutions have lost momentum or your date book isn’t full for February 14^th, you can still make this month full of glorious self-love.

We have all heard that a deep, connected relationship requires intimacy.   But what about the relationship you have with yourself?  How intimate are you?

Now what I mean by “intimacy” is an uncensored, raw and honest connection with your inmost being.  There was a time in my life that I yearned to be in a relationship.  I thought the relationship would somehow make me “complete” or validate my worth.   However, I was not able to bring my whole self to my relationships because I was constantly running away from being intimate with myself.

I kept busy with work, never-ending to do lists, an overstuffed planner and a mind going a mile a minute. I tried to be so many things to so many people, that I lost the most important relationship I could ever have- the one with myself.

My lack of self-intimacy set the stage for all the relationships in my life.

Think about it… If you had a deep, intimate relationship with yourself, how do you think it would affect your other relationships? To be deeply intimate with another person, you have to deeply know yourself first.  I don’t mean that you have to know all the answers about yourself or that you will never evolve or change. 

Intimacy has been broken down into “Into-Me-I-See.” Are you seeing yourself with clear, honest eyes? Do you take time to bond, reflect and be honest? Are you allowing yourself space to breathe and “just be?”  We all desire intimacy, but we also find ways to run away from it.

We avoid intimacy because it requires exposing the deepest inner chambers of our heart, mind and soul.

But isn’t that also exciting?  To know yourself in a way that you’ve never experienced before: what moves you, inspires you, motivates you, annoys you, scares you, what you want to share, what you want to keep secret, what limiting beliefs lie within you, what you value and what dreams make your heart sing.

It is from that space magic can happen.

Relationships come and go but the one you have with yourself is invaluable and irreplaceable.  It should be honored not only this February but for all the years to come.

February 2014 Issue