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Question: Everything about money is so stressful to me! I’m afraid to ask for it and I feel guilty when I spend it. I feel scared when I think about money in general. I know I need to heal my relationship with it in order to be successful and actually MAKE money, but I don’t even know where to start! I feel like my money mindset is a mess. How can I start healing my relationship with money?
Answer: Awesome question! There are 5 steps I want to share with you. I call this the five sacred ACTTS of coming into right relationship with money.
A is for awareness
Step number one for healing your relationship with money is awareness, and you already have that because you asked this question! You recognize that you have a challenge, you recognize that you have a problem in this area of money, you recognize that your money mindset is a mess, so awareness is healing, as my yoga teacher says.
And that is the very first step to beginning to right your relationship with money.
C is for clearing out contracts.
You’ve obviously got some contracts, impressions that you’ve made within yourself about money. Contacts that could have come from your parental paradigm, from things your parents did or showed you about how to relate with money, or these contacts could by karmic, they could be ancestral, they could be cultural, they could be societal, there are all kinds of different contracts you might have that are buried and hidden under the surface that you don’t even know exist.
But because you have awareness, you can go digging for those contracts, and as you dig and reveal each and every one, you have an opportunity to rewrite them, and clear them out so you can shift your relationship with money.
T is for Taking Time with your money
Taking time with your money allows you to face and commune with and become a partner with your money. That means that you want to set up some structures in your life that will allow you to take this time with money.
Twice a month on my calendar, I have money matters Tuesdays. Those are the days I set aside to take time with my money to look at what is it that I really want, what do I need, what do I value, how much money is coming in, how much money is going out, does all of this work for me right now, or is it time for me to make a change.
It’s about really taking command of your relationship with money by taking the time out of your very busy schedule to honor it, to create that depth of relationship with money.
T is for Tuning In.
Tuning in means really checking in to find out what vibration you are emanating out into the world.
There are three different vibrations: scarcity, abundance, and wealth. It sounds to me that you are swimming around in the scarcity vibration, and there are ways to energetically shift that.
Something that I offer in one of my courses is a set of techniques you can use to not only become aware of the different frequencies of money, but to shift yourself between all of them. When you find yourself stuck in scarcity, you can make your way into abundance and eventually into wealth.
S is for Salute the Source
The final step in the five ACTTS for coming into right relationship with money is Salute the Source, because at the end of the day, gratitude is the currency of the universe, and currency is gratitude in action.
You want to be in gratitude to the source, source being your god, goddess, light, darkness, dark sea of awareness, universe, cosmic awareness, whatever you’d like to call it! Spirit, creator, mother earth, this is the source of all of your good, all of your creativity, all of your ideas, the source that breathes life into your very body. Being in a state of gratitude is one of the most important and powerful ways to begin to clean up the mess of your money mindset.
We’d love to hear from YOU…
Is your money mindset in a state of scarcity, abundance, or wealth? Which of these steps spoke to you the most? Leave your answer in the comments below!